Our constant fear: Birthdays

Our constant fear: Birthdays

It’s funny how something you looked forward to, as a kid, would turn into a dreadful thing you wish to avoid every year. The righteous people would deny this, and good for you guys! But for the rest of us who feel like our birthdays are like a death sentence, I FEEL YOU.

Mine’s coming up this month. I stopped being excited when I turned 24. A lot of people rant about their birthdays. They don’t fall short on expressing how much they hate their birthdays, hate celebrating them, and hate it when friends want to celebrate it. But have you ever wondered WHY?

I got a chance to think about it, and here’s what I came up with:
(People hate their birthdays because…)

1. They’re unfortunately SINGLE when they wished they weren’t
2. They still feel unaccomplished for their age
3. They associate their birthdays with sad moments in life (a breakup, losing a loved one)
4. In the past, they expected too much during birthdays but ended up disappointed
5. It’s a coincidence that they’re lives are in such a mess when their birthdays come up

My list could go on, but I know for a fact that it’s because of the worldwide association of AGING to “BEING LESS”. Being less attractive, being less cool, losing your golden years. Not only that; you get older and would have to say that horrible number every time someone asks for it — no wonder a lot of people lie about it. After all, it’s more convenient to hide that number instead of showing it and feeling bad about it. Women feel even worse about this. The relationship status is always a big deal when it comes to birthdays. Deep inside, as kids, women all set some ideals on when they want to settle down and have kids. Even though these ideals changed through time and experiences, that inner kid would always whisper to us “heyy, we’re still not there…”

Though there’s a lot of truth in these, I think it’s best to look at the perks of aging. Aging may bring a dozen of bad things to us, but there’s always two sides of a coin.

Aging is liberating — as you grow older, less people can stop you from doing what you really want to do in life.

Aging brings wisdom — when we were younger, A LOT of things would hurt us. Even a bad date would get us jaded and off to a drinking spree. As we grow older, we get to choose the things that COULD hurt us. And we do it now, with more precision. Some may think of it as “being more cold” as time goes by, but for me, it’s just a sharpened sense of judgement.

Aging makes us stronger — added age is no shield to disappointments, regrets, and heartaches. No matter what age you’re in, these things are normal, and no one is excused. However, age and experience allows us to heal faster. Age allows us to get up faster than we did when we were younger. People in their teens and early 20’s would take months to heal a disappointment or a broken heart. Those in their late 20’s and 30’s just stand up after a few days and do it all over again. This time, a better version of themselves.


I guess this is how I want to end this rant. Birthdays are always another chance for us to explore who we are. Who we really are, and who we can be. It’s always another chance to make our happy lives even happier OR to make a sad life a happy one. It’s another year where we could work on being a better version of ourselves. That’s the beauty of aging in our generation. It tells you that it’s never too late to try something new.



In line with that I wanted to write! Cheers! –> http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/03/10/weekly-writing-challenge-golden-years/


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